if you love your long hair i wouldn’t cut it? like, only cut your hair if that’s what you really want. presentation doesn’t define gender and it’s better to think of your long hair as agender since it belongs to you

alex

there’s such thing as “vaginal nullification” (or “female nullification”) and it definitely exists but it doesn’t look like a very common practice. the only mention of it i can find in a trans-related context is on the neutrois.com archives, and kind of vaguely related on this blog. 

-alex

designated female at birth

hi! guess what- you don’t have to be either! you can absolutely be a non-binary gender, and not be a boy or a girl. there’s a lot of places to go from there, and i just woke up, so if i were you i would read more here: http://nonbinary.org/wiki/Nonbinary_gender. good luck! it’s gonna be ok.

-goose

Coming out can be really difficult - and many people assume that coming out as bisexual is easier than being gay, or that its a ‘half-way’ step to being gay - but its really not true. What I would say is that you should be comfortable in your own knowledge of your sexuality. I’m sure the majority of people will be supportive, but when faced with those who are not, it is your own solidarity that will come in handy! Bi-erasure (the believe that bisexuality isn’t a legitimate sexuality) is a common problem, and the best way to combat it is having the confidence to call people out on their misconceptions. Don’t ever feel like you have to prove your sexuality too!

However, there isn’t any shame in not telling everyone you know immediately, sometimes its easier to tell a few friends and let your confidence grow. No one rational is going to think its for attention at all, but if you do get negative responses that worry you, be sure to tell someone and get things sorted

hope it goes okay - Chris x

yeah of course you can !! bisexual refers to who you’re attracted to and demisexual refers to how often/under what conditions you experience sexual attraction so yeah you can be both !

-lu

if your feelings about gender are inconsistent then you may be genderfluid to some degree. gender fluidity is simply the feeling of moving between gender identities

if one day you’re most comfortable thinking of yourself as a guy (and with other people treating you as such), and other days your not so bothered, then you could be genderfluid, but equally if you experience gender dysphoria at all then these feelings can come and go with your dysphoria. i personally feel a lot more like i need to be treated as a woman when i have a bad day with dysphoria, and other days im not rly too fussed about it (though i still much prefer being treated as a woman on those days too)

and for another thing you said “I’m not uncomfortable being a girl”, but if you dont feel like one then you arent one ! it can be difficult exploring your gender id and i personally really wasnt sure of what i prefered when i first was aware i was trans, but the more you think about it the more you figure out what you’re comfortable with, generally speaking

-lu

preferring more masculine people sexually is called androsexual yep!! you may also be grey-ace if you feel as though you’re mostly asexual, but not entirely. heres a link to a page describing the ace umbrella (note: im not ace so there may be problems with it–it seems good afaik)

and yeah it can be difficult exploring who you are and your identity in an environment with people like that. it can create internalised prejudice and it can generally make you feel as though you dont have any room to experiment but if you dont feel right calling yourself straight then !! you probably arent its that simple. just think it over i guess and id suggest reading about the ace umbrella and other sexual orientations–they’re quite easy to find on google. also feel free to send more questions if you’re still confused. good luck !!

-lu

both androgyne and neutrois gender identities imply that an individual is nonbinary with no specific tie to any gender.

the only difference is that many people who identify with being neutrois wish to minimize markers that they were born with which make them interpreted as being a specific gender. (ex: a dfab neutrois would probably aim to get top surgery.) neutrois is generally a smaller group that focuses on physical alteration to appear as a null-gendered. if you want to read more about this, i would recommend checking out neutrois.com.

androgyne individuals tend to combine feminine and masculine traits, rather than aim to nullify traits. as far as i’m aware, androgyne individuals tend to focus more on a style of dress and the like in order to be interpreted as nonbinary. it’s a bit more about gender expression, rather than reconstructive surgery.

neutrois individuals can be androgyne. there isn’t a set of specific rules for either, but those tend to be key diffierences. not every neutrois-identified person wishes for surgery, and not every androgyne person doesn't want surgery. that can be the main source of confusion.

a lot of people feel the terms can be used interchangeably, but the neutrois website indicates that neutrois is a sub-set of androgyne.

- lylynd